Five recognition of offsetting one criticizing Peking University Institute of mental health DrHuang Xuebing
People get along with others, inevitably be judged at any time a few words. Everyone likes to hear good words, the saying goes: good words sentence three warm in winter, cold eyushangren in June. A word of criticism than praise on psychological influence in five sentences, extends open to talk about, a bad impression may have five good impression to offset. Why is the case? First of all, self-esteem needs make us very sensitive to others ' offensive. United States well-known social psychologist Maslow is that, self-esteem needs to be one of the basic human needs. Self-esteem needs to be met, can feel happiness and satisfaction in life. Therefore, we need others authorized to yourself, to establish a good self-assessment. People deep down there is self-doubt, therefore, to give others an impression, often do not care about, and bad impression of extra attention has been given to others, think it was offensive to their dignity. Secondly, this phenomenon "halo effect" effect. Called the halo effect, means that once a person forming a negative rating, it's not easy to change, this feeling will be extended to all acts on each other. In this case, many good performance is difficult to offset the time fault. Recognizing this, for us, good performance will help you understand why although there are many, difficult to soothe hostility or aversion to our people on the negative emotions, so carefully in the future work.
See July 23, 2009 Edition of the family health report of the original "mental stop"
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